An International Christmas

 

My little internationals.

I have an  international family, and we’re having  an international Christmas celebration. On Christmas Eve we’re having an African meal in honor of Ben’s son Christophe who was born in Chad. We’ll have a Japanese meal on Christmas Day (son Joel’s wife Eri is Japanese) and an “East Coast” breakfast on Monday morning. I know, I know, the East Coast is not a foreign country but it does reflect how widespread are family is! Jim, our oldest son, lives in the Philadelphia area where he pastors a church. Because he has to preach on Sunday morning, he won’t be getting here until late on Sunday evening. By featuring the “East Coast” on Monday morning, Jim can share his life and ministry with us before Joel’s family leaves midday for home in California. We may round out this celebration by singing Feliz Navidad just to add another international touch! Whether we do or not, the song is in my thoughts as I cook meals, do dishes, talk  with family members and watch grandchildren play!  Like the song says, I want to wish everyone a merry Christmas.

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Make Christmas Merry – for Less Money

Creative gift wrap

Recycle gift wrap and gift bags. If gift wrap is wrinkled, iron it. For gifts within the family, I’ve used The Wall Street Journal financial pages—the black and white print looks great with a red or green bow. I’ve used the Sunday funny papers—a gold bow works well. A friend of mine did all of her gifts with brown paper bags and red and green bows. They looked great sitting under her homespun Christmas tree.

Think small when entertaining

The smaller your gathering, the less food you will need to buy. Don’t feel you have to outdo every other hostess this time of year. Neither attempt to repay a whole year’s social obligations in a single holiday event. A dinner party of six or eight can be just as enjoyable than a party of thirty or forty, sometimes more so because it doesn’t require as much energy and the group is more cohesive. A dinner menu is often less time consuming and less expensive to prepare than a buffet of finger foods.

Go potluck

Some guests actually feel guilty if they don’t bring something, so plan a meal or buffet where everyone brings a contribution. Not only does this save money, but it is the best time saver there is.

Serve brunch

Popular brunch foods such as egg dishes and coffeecakes cost considerably less than dinner menus and it just may be the right time spot for get togethers—a time not usually taken up with other commitments and elaborate fare is usually not expected.

Prune your greeting card list

Miss Manners advises dropping from your list anyone of whom you have no mental picture. An out of date picture is okay, but if you cannot conjure up a face, then you needn’t send greetings even if they send you one! I pruned my list by asking myself why I was sending Christmas cards. With some I had to admit, I was sending cards to them because they sent one to me so I eliminated those. With others, I was sending Christmas cards because I wanted to stay in touch. I decided I could do that on their birthdays when I had time to write a personal letter to include with the card. This saved me time at Christmas and reduced a large one-time postage bill as it was a stamp here and a stamp there.

Give fewer gifts

If you have ever ended your family’s Christmas gift exchange with a room full of gift room and a heart full of stress, perhaps it is time to talk with family members and decide to give each other fewer, more thoughtful gifts at Christmas. One wise family decided when their children were small to give three gifts to each other—three because that is the number that baby Jesus received from the Wise Men, and they have stayed with that through the years.

Give coupons with promise

Give a gift of time and friendship by promising to baby-sit, clean house, wallpaper a room, plant a garden, or provide some other needed service. Make an attractive coupon that the recipient can “redeem” sometime during the coming year. Another woman gave her husband his favorite cake with a note, “You’ll get one of these every month.” For years she had been promising to bake him a cake “some day.” He was thrilled to know that “some day” had arrived!

Give less expensive gifts

Instead of continually raising the bar each year on gift exchanges, lower it. The challenge can be part of the fun. I know a group of women who have been meeting for lunch and a gift exchange for years. They buy each other $1.00 gifts and have a fun and creative time doing it. For parties, give white elephant gifts. For more on this idea, see the Green party idea under Four Party Ideas.

Give gifts that don’t cost money

Could you put together a scrapbook of memories for your friends, children or parents? I collected quotes from one son’s letters and put them in a book as a gift. One mother wrote a letter written on Christmas stationery in which she revealed her personal feelings, thoughts, and hopes for each of her children.

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Tips for Simplifying Christmas

Decide what’s most important

Make a list of what your family does to celebrate Christmas. Ask family members which preparations and events are meaningful to them. Arrange list items in order of importance and ask them to consider eliminating those at the bottom. As the family members discuss changes that could be made, you may be amazed that some of the things you were knocking yourself out for really aren’t important to the rest of the family.

Share the load

Ask other family members to help you prepare for Christmas. Divvy up the tasks. Using the talent of family members can make them feel special. One woman had her ten-year-old daughter to design their family Christmas card. The girl drew the original and then they photocopied the card. Then she and her brother addressed and stamped all the cards. In my book Can Martha Have a Mary Christmas?, I wrote about sharing the work load at Christmas with my sons. I gave them jobs to do and paid them in multiples of dimes (to make it easy to divide!). I had them give half of what they earned to Jesus (an offering for international missions). We put the collected dimes in paper stockings and placed the stockings in the church offering plate.

Cut back on décor

Is it really necessary to have several Christmas trees in your house? Must you decorate every room in the house, including changing the kitchen clock to one with Santa on it? Is your goal to win decorating awards or to have a meaningful Christmas? If it is the latter you want, then you need just enough decorations to indicate that something special is happening and to provide a warm ambiance. One tree and lots of candles will provide that!

Prune your gift list

Even if you can afford to buy gifts for numerous people, it still requires time and effort to buy, to wrap them and to sometimes return them. Simplify your Christmas list so you will have fewer to buy and to wrap. You’ll enjoy the process more and find you can really focus on making the recipient happy. If you regularly exchange gifts with certain individuals, don’t wait until December to tell them you would rather not exchange gifts. Bring this up earlier in the year, say in July, and discuss it before gifts have been bought.

Save time by being practical

I wanted to spend time with my young adult sons and I also wanted to buy them gifts they would like. There wasn’t time to do both so I chose time over gift-pleasing efforts. I arranged a “date” with one son at a time and took him shopping. I hold him how much I had to spend for his gifts and let him decide how we would spend it. We shopped together, did a lot of conversing while we looked, and he made the final selections. I took the gifts home and wrapped them, and when each opened their gifts, he said, “What a surprise! And it’s just what I wanted!”

Learn to say “No, thank you”

There’s no rule written anywhere that says you have to accept all the party invitations that come your way. Select a few significant activities—ones that will enhance your celebration—and decline the other activities. This is especially important if you have young children. Their Christmas will mean more if they have parents who are present in body and spirit.

Plan simple activities

Many people see getting together with others as one of the things they appreciate most about holidays but they don’t have to be elaborate affairs. Plan a soup party. Friends and family love the informality of a homemade soup party. You can ask your guests to bring various kinds of breads, crackers and cheeses. Soup is also a stretcher in case you add extra guests at the last minute.

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The Friendship Factor: Why Women Need Other Women

The Friendship Factor
If a woman wants to understand herself better, or understand other women, if she wants to relate to them, minister to them and with them—and receive from them!—then she’ll want to understand the power of conversation in women’s lives which is what this book is about. Throughout the adult woman’s life span—the exploratory years, the young adult years, the middle years, and the later years, the power of conversation is a sustaining force.

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Miracle on 25th Street: A 25 Day Christmas Activity for Children

Miracle on 25th Street: A 25 Day Christmas Activity for Children
Christmas is for celebrating Jesus’ birthday. When you think about Jesus, who he was, and what he did, there is much to celebrate, and this booklet gives children and families a way to do this. It has 25 daily devotionals to be read during the December days before Christmas. Each devotional has a symbol to go with it. The symbols are pictured in the book. They may be colored or used as a pattern for making ornaments for a Christmas tree.

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Wonder Women of the Bible: Heroes of Yesterday Who Inspire Us Today

Wonder Women of the Bible: Heroes of Yesterday Who Inspire Us Today

This book was written for women who are encountering some life challenges that call for courage, tenacity, or perseverance. They need some role models to show them how to respond to problems or to encourage them to hang tough in their stress-filled lives. If they have ever doubted their ability, lacked courage, or felt undervalued, overlooked, or limited in what they can do, then they can take heart from the wonder women of the Bible. Each wonder woman’s story will encourage and empower them.

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When Saints Sing the Blues: Understanding Depression through the Lives of Job, Naomi, Paul and Others

When Saints Sing the Blues: Understanding Depression through the Lives of Job, Naomi, Paul and Others

There’s no valley of depression so deep that God cannot bring gain out of it, but people may not know this unless they look at the lives of biblical characters who struggled with depression. Walk with eleven biblical characters through their valleys of darkness, and see what kind of growth and gain is possible. You’ll be encouraged to discover people can march again—and even more strongly than they once did—after being depressed.

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Can Martha Have a Mary Christmas: Untangling Expectations and Truly Experiencing Jesus

Can Martha Have a Mary Christmas: Untangling Expectations and Truly Experiencing Jesus
December could be called the “the most Martha time of year.” In this stressful season, women are tempted to lose their cool like Martha in the Bible. She became upset over all she had to do while her sister Mary was able to have time with Jesus. Brenda, a self-proclaimed Martha, sometimes found herself in the same dilemma. She became entangled in the stress of preparing for Christmas when what she really wanted was to experience Jesus. In this book of 25 reflections, she shares what she’s learned about how to have a more spiritually satisfying Christmas, one she calls a “MARY” Christmas.

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Reaching Heaven: Discovering the Cornerstones of Jesus’ Prayer Life

Reaching Heaven: Discovering the Cornerstones of Jesus’ Prayer Life
This book will take you on an exciting adventure of learning to pray in a way that you’ll reach heaven. Jesus knew perfectly the heart and mind of God so following His example will help you experience some of heaven on earth. You can do this by making the four cornerstones of His prayer life touchstones in your life.

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Also available is the Study Guide for Reaching Heaven as found on Scribd.com.

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